A queer feminist lens is used to present a selected review of the demographic and descriptive literature related to how same‐sex couples in the United States begin and dissolve relationships. We argue that despite research suggesting a uniformity of same‐sex coupling that reflects a heteronormative nuclear family, there is actually great diversity in same‐sex relationships. As legal recognition of same‐sex couples increases from state to state, however, the dissolution of same‐sex relationships has become as challenging as legally establishing them. This review explores several current cases representing the difficulties experienced by couples who marry or have a civil union in states requiring residency prior to dissolution and try to dissolve a relationship when they reside in a state that does not recognize same‐sex unions.